Mommin’ on a prayer.

Lets be real, being a mom is TOUGH as nails some times.

We’ve all been on the dirty side of a diaper cussing in our heads (or out loud) about the mess or how the wipes are on the other side of the room and how I should have grabbed them before going to the living room to change this shit shower.

If you have more than one child chances are you’ve had a rough day or two. Some days the mood swings and persistent questioning of every action we perform are TOO MUCH.

YES YES being a mom is a gift from the heavens. It’s a blessing, and occasionally a curse. (kidding, kidding)

We are all just learning as we go. I’m not perfect, my parenting skills aren’t perfect, but I am determined to better my mommin’ one day at a time.

That doesn’t mean I don’t get frustrated or feel overwhelmed. You’d be a robot if you didn’t feel all the emotions ever named raising tiny humans.

One amazing thing I’ve learned is if one day sucks rocks, we go to bed, wake up and its a new day filled with new experiences and chances to make the best of the unpredictable.

Do you ever think back, before you had children, and think why you wanted them???

I do.

I still remember, before my boys were Earth side my motivation for having kiddos was to   make a difference in the world. I wanted to love someone unconditionally so hard that it made me strive for greatness every damn day.

I want my boys to know that dreams DO come true. That they can accomplish ANYTHING that they invest hard work and dedication into.

To love everyone. Give kindness FREELY. Encourage compassion.

Inspire your children to strive for greatness and to dream BIG. It is so important to instill in your children from a young age to manifest thoughts into reality.

Children are more susceptible to these thoughts because they are imaginative and open minded. They aren’t as affected by societies negative perceptions of making dreams come true as us adults.

As an adult we’ve been programmed to stay safe, make safe career choices, don’t take risk because what if.

Our children haven’t been programmed by society yet, so encourage them to be kind, live in love, and dream.

What do you tell your kiddos?

Do you inspire them to be what ever they find passion in?

Do you constantly tell them no, you can’t do that. Thats not possible. You’re not capable.

What are a few dreams you have for your children?

If you’re reading thinking what the fuck just happened this post took a turn… I’m thinking the same thing. It got REAL QUICK.

haha. Gotta keep it interesting, right?

 

with love,

Em.

 

Expectations and kids

As I lay here next to my boys enjoying the silence I come to the conclusion that expectations and kids are bullshit. My husband will love reading this and tell me “I told you so” as we’ve had a conversation about this topic recently. 

Why are expectations and kids bullshit you ask? 

Well because babies, toddlers, kids, teens, etc are unpredictable. You never know what’s gonna trigger a tantrum. My family and I are currently in the toddler stage so we will discuss that. 

According to dictionary.com expectation is defined as the degree of probability that something will occur. (Number 6 of the definitions.) With that being said if you reflect on your relationship for a moment and think about a time when you expected your spouse to do something for you. Such as folding the laundry or cleaning the litter box. When the scenario didn’t play out to your favor, what happened? Well possibly you got pissed. Maybe you even mentioned that you wished they would have folded the laundry or cleaned the litter box. 

You didn’t verbalize to your significant other what you wanted, you ASSUMED they were going to deliver. 

Now think about this with your toddler. In the sense that you expect your child to act a certain way when you are in public. Maybe these expectations are negative when it comes to your strong-willed child’s behavior. Are you thinking they are going to ask for every item in the store? Are you expecting your toddler to act crazy and cry and scream?

The toddler stage is great, they are learning so much. Think about it. Toddlers are learning boundaries. Children don’t fully grasp the concept that there is things in this world that can harm them. It’s hard to explain to a toddler why he/she can’t eat a full bag of chocolate chips. Or why he/ she can’t go running through a packed parking lot. When we explain these things to our toddlers they listen intently, but that doesn’t mean they understand. 


When we expect toddlers to act negatively, subconscious or not this is the energy we are putting into the universe. 

When we focus our attention on the negative expectations of toddlers, we are asking the universe to make these thoughts reality.

If you are wondering how I know this it’s because I do this. HONESTY is the best policy right? I am no where near perfect and I don’t want to portray that. I intend to share my thoughts in hopes of being relatable. Even possibly encouraging an alternative to your “normal” way of thinking. 

I’m just on a journey to be more mindful.

Our youngest is a free spirit, he is strong willed and rarely listens when he is given a comand. 

While I lay here looking at this beautiful little boy sleep I’m apologetic for expecting him to be something, or better yet someone he isn’t. 

I find when I assume he is going to do something negative like hit the tv with a sword or run out the door the minute it’s opened, it happens

Reflection on our actions really clarifies what we need to improve to be better parents. 


Our boys Caybren, Ander, and I have been at my mom and step dads in Ohio. Of course there house isn’t child proof and my negative expectations have gotten the best of me. 

Ander has grabbed items and ran with them, refusing to return them. He has climbed on the table, kitchen island, and top of the couch. 

He’s an explorer, active, and curious. Ander isn’t easily occupied. I’ve found myself thinking out scenarios where he exerts negative behavior and then I’m frustrated. I find myself redirecting him a lot. 

We have to change our thinking in order to get different results. 

I am thankful for this moment. Where I have been able to reflect on my thoughts and what they can manifest. 

Being more mindful is an amazing thing. 

I want so much for our boys. One thing that is important is that they don’t feel like shit for who they are. Yes Caybren and Ander are still growing but so am I. 

I’m ready to release negative expectations. 

Evolve your parenting skills and your tots will evolve their actions. 

Reflect on your thoughts and don’t be afraid to admit to yourself that you might do this too. Negative expectations = negative results. It’s never to late to evolve yourself. We always have more to offer. 

With love,

Em

Unplugged thoughts of a young mother.

Being a human being with an active subconscious I have been contemplating writing this post for quite some time. Fearful of judgement caused by the raw thoughts itchy at my mind. But being transparent is something I strive for everyday. Honesty and openness in hopes that someone who feels the same way knows they are not alone. 

Just a little background I am 24 years young with two toddlers ages 2 years old and 3 years old. 

I knew from a young age I wanted to be a mother. I would play with baby dolls and imagine what I would name my son or daughter in the future. I had a life like babydoll that I took with me almost everywhere till I was 12 years old… I kid you not. I loved that thing. Lol

Fast forward a few years I’m 20 years old committed to the man of my dreams it’s Friday night November 23rd, 2013. We are at the hospital bring our eldest Earthside and I still remember all these thoughts racing through my mind. Thankful that he was healthy and finally here. Instantly I loved being a mom. Of course there were days I struggled with allowing myself to understand that it was okay to know nothing about being a parent. I strived for perfection. Thankful to be in a partnership with a man who loved me and was dedicated to his family. 

Fast forward again about 8 months I found out I was pregnant again and I was bombarded with thoughts of fear. 

What would my parents think? How would we love another baby as much? How will I fulfill my dreams and passions? 

Of course in most cases we are in control of when we become parents. I know this. Thankfully in due time I made peace with the birthing another tiny human. Fear turned into joy. Our second was born February 6th, 2015 early but healthy. 

I was in about 4 hours of active labor and conquered a major goal for myself. Birthing naturally with no epidural. I felt empowered, grateful for this body that was able to do what it was made to do. All fears subsided and bliss entered with this new little boy. 

Our boys are 14 months apart and although it’s been challenging I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

That brings me to these thoughts. Seeing other 20 something year olds: in college, starting their careers. Dating and going on trips without any obligation to raising a human being. Sometimes I wonder what would life be like? What would I be doing? Would I be striving for the same goals? 

When these thoughts first entered my mind I was mad at myself. Your boys are healthy and your in a partnership with an amazing human being. You have it great your life is great. 

The more I thought on this the more I grew to understand to make peace with these thoughts process them and release. After contemplating for quite some time I am thankful to be a young mother. I am thankful to be apart of something greater than myself. I am grateful to love unconditionally. 

And I know for a fact I wouldn’t be striving for my best self without my husband and boys in my life. I wouldn’t have these amazing goals and dreams for myself and our lives. I am more empowered, more loving, more compassion because I am a mother. 

Yes, I have had to make sacrifices in places like my career and self love. But I am working on balance. I wouldn’t be where I am today without those sacrifices that have made me stronger. 

I thoroughly believe everything happens for a reason. Allowing these thoughts to be processed and released is so important. They remind us that we are human and we are still striving towards our true potential.

 Being raw and vulnerable brings transparency. 

Motherhood is indescribable at times. Overwhelming but it is also joyful and rewarding. 

I’m thankful to be a young mom. I am proud and empowered to let others know they are not alone. Keep striving to be the best version of yourself and never settle, because you my friend are capable of greatness. 

Why Network Marketing? 

It’s been a while… once again! Last month I decided on a whim to join a company called Plexus. I saw a new Facebook friend advertise about joining for FREE. I was astonished of course and though what do I have to lose!? I am NOT good at sales but I had more than one reasons for getting on the MLM train. I decided to message the new friend and once she told me a bit about the company and I did some quick research and decided to join that night. 

Most people reading, I have a feeling are thinking, oh em gee this lady is crazy. Maybe, its quite possible I’m loco, but network marketing, direct sales, multi-level marketing (whatever you want to call it) has evolved over the years. It doesn’t have to involve the old school ways of door to door spammy sales tactics. If you try something (anything) yoga, Pilates, cross fit, etc and you like it what do you do? You talk about it with your friends and family. You just might recommend it if you love it. Right? Why should products be any different? Especially if what you are choosing to promote encourages health and wellness.

Now, more about Plexus, it is a health and wellness company with currently 18 products. These supplements help keep blood sugars at healthy levels, aid in digestive health, and much more. The company is most known for its infamous “pink drink” or Slim. This product is a powder that you add to your water. Slim works to rebalance the bacteria in your gut. 

 Did you know 60-80% of your immune system is located in your gut!? If you are sluggish, tired, or sick frequently your body could be in need of detoxification and rebalance. Below are several benefits of the pink drink:

✅clinically demonstrated to help you lose weight.

✅promotes the growth of good gut microbes.

✅increases the metabolism- enhancing Akkermansia microbe by 250 times.

✅supports healthy glucose metabolism (blood sugars). 


I’ve always wanted to help people. Being a hairstylist, when it comes to outer beauty I feel like I have been able to achieve that, but I found myself wanting to do more. 

I found Plexus at the right time. For several months I had been feeling sluggish, tired, bloated, moody, depressed, overly anxious and was drowning in self doubt. I knew I wanted to do a cleanse and was only interested in a natural and safe product. I knew I needed to change and I feel like Plexus is helping me on my journey to a healthier lifestyle. I’m not a pushy person and I don’t want to be seen that way. If I LOVE something I’m gonna share it💓. 

Since I’ve stated Plexus, researching gut health and the effects it has on our bodies has become a hobby. 

Lots of people suffer from digestive issues, left untreated they can cause diseases and illnesses to arise. Roughly 70 million Americans suffer from digestive disease and it costs the USA 100 billion dollars in medical bills.😱

Crazy I know! 

Another fun fact, more than 40 diseases have been linked to bacterial imbalance, including: depression, IBS, arthritis, and cancer. 

I’m currently on the triplex system which includes Slim, bio cleanse, and probio 5. 


So far in my journey I have had a numerous amount of benefits. 

1. More energy.

2. better sleep.

3. decrease in bloating.

4. Regulation in digestion.

I have not experienced any side effects so far and plan to be COMPLETELY honest with my journey and symptoms.

Like anything else, what works for one might not work for another. 

Don’t just go by what others are saying if you are interested in Plexus experience it for yourself! 

The company offers a 60 day money back guarantee, so if you aren’t satisfied you can return it! 
Oh, and of course being an ambassador has its benefits. You get wholesale prices and the potential to earn an extra income in 11 ways! Who doesn’t want more ways to help financially support their family. 

So I leave you with this, if you have a friend who does direct sales, be open minded. If you are interested in something that company offers don’t be afraid to try it! And if you love it you could potential support their business by joining the company as well. 

I never thought in a million years I would participate in direct sales, but here I am. 

There is so many possiblities when it comes to earning a living and if you can help people along the way, why not! 

If you have any questions, I’d be more than happy to help.

With love,

Em

A few of my fav things💗

Golly gee it’s been too long. I haven’t been consistent about blogging this past week. Anywho I’ve always loved makeup, but have struggled with finding products that work well with my sensitive skin. After trying multiple products I’ve discovered several that I love and highly recommend. Don’t worry I’m not sponsored, so these are my honest opinions. 

  1. Tarte Amazonian clay BB tinted moisturizer➖ this product is light weight and delivers optimum coverage. This tinted moisturizer is loaded with antioxidants and formulated without the use of phthalates, mineral oil, gluten, and sodium lauryl sulfate. I have had zero irritation with this product and love the way I have light natural coverage all day long with one☝️ application. You can find this amazing product at Ulta, Sephora, or online.
  2. Tarte Maneater Mascara ➖ equipped with 360 degrees of tiny fiber like bristles you get drama and length in a few sweeps. Once again I have sensitive skin this includes my lashes and eye area. With some other brands my eyes get red and irritated. I am happy to report that is not the case with this product! Love it, also maneater doesn’t leave residue below the eyebrows after application. Which I had an issue with younique mascara. 
  3. Tarte Creamy Powder Foundation ➖ with more coverage than the tinted moisturizer it gives for a porcelain look without the feel of caked on makeup. Long lasting coverage and works well with my sensitive skin. 
  4. Physicians Formula Full Coverage Concealer ➖ gives a photo ready finish. My under eye skin is very sensitive and this product hasn’t irritated it yet! 👏🏼 the only issue I have with it is that when I first started using it too much came out at once which caused me to waste a lot of product👎🏽 
  5. Tartelette In Bloom Pallet ➖ deep neutrals with a blend of matte and shimmery shadows. I love the colors and the shadows do not smug off at the end of the day. I have noticed so far that a little goes a long way which is nice as well. Since there is several matte options I use them to fill in my brows as well! 
  6. Ulta tinted lip balm ➖ pink velvet ➖ I love the color and the simple ingredients such as shea butter. Keeps my lips feeling moisturizer and pretty. Only dislike is the taste. Not that I lick the lip balm but when some gets in your mouth it’s not very tasty. So if you can avoid it, I don’t recommend tasting it… lol
  7. Badger Lip Tint and Shimmer ➖vegan double sided tint! Love the summery color and their is two shades. It doesn’t have a nasty taste and does have a beautiful color. Moisturizer and stays on well. I highly recommend. Purchased from Sprouts. 

🔆if you having questions about these products drop them in the comments below! If you have makeup that you love I’d love to hear what you use!
With love,

Em💗

The Potty Training Trials

If you are a parent with a toddler(s) you know the trials. You’ve probably experienced the sh*t and pee on an object other than a diaper or the inside of a toilet bowl. Changing diapers is no fun, especially when your little one starts eating solids. Potty training is no fun either, not to be a Debbie Downer, but I’d rather teach his how to do anything else. 

It would be awesome if there was a potty fairy that descended from the heavens and waved her potty shaped wand over your sleeping toddler, magically the next day they were shitting and peeing in the potty. Since that hasn’t been created yet, were left to other resources. I’m not a big reader especially when it comes to books on raising kids. There’s nothing wrong with reading these books they just aren’t my cup of tea. 

I clearly like to do things the hard way. First we tried letting Caybren just be naked from the waist down but that didn’t last because he decided to act like a cave boy and pee on everything. Next we put him in undies, he would pee in them. He wasn’t a fan of that feeling. I don’t know who would be. Occasionally we would catch him before going in his pants and in the potty he went. Oh and number two… forget about it. He’s been great about number one. In the last month Caybren has had maybe 2 accidents. Only one of those being at night. Up until recently their was several days out of the week poo was everywhere but in the toilet. Seriously I was about to give up and let him be in diapers for ever. Legit. 

Then a silver lining, while at my grandmas two to three weeks ago he successfully went number two! Since then we’ve had a few accidents but he’s going pretty much in the toilet. Thank Buddha! 

I thought we were in the clear once this happened. Then I remember it’s not instinctual to wipe your own ass… I have to teach him that too! 

So after he sneaks off to do his bidness, I’m wondering where Caybren is, I get up to search for him. In the bathroom the first thing I see is unmentionable… and it’s by the toilet seat. Not only do I have to clean his booty but the seat as well. Occasionally his legs too. But at least he’s on the right track. 

The worst is when the “accidents” happen in public… Caybren’s first accident was in Kroger, thank God it was number one. But we still had to request clean up on isle 10. It was pretty embarrassing, for us, not him of course. 

I always love when you are out somewhere grocery shopping or whatever and they see a bathroom. Caybren says “need to go potty” “potty right now” “hurry”. When this happens I’m usually by myself with both boys. I have to drop everything and run Caybren to the bathroom. Trying to put him on the potty and keep Ander from waving under the stall at the ladies is a real task. 

It blows my mind sometimes all the things we need to teach them. I’m not sure when the proper age is to clean your own tush but I think we’ll take it one day at a time. I’m not ready to teach anything else regarding a potty for a good week. (Haha). 

On another note, our other son Ander is two and I’m no where near ready for potty training part two. 

With ❤️,

Em

Making the world a better place.

Lately I’ve been watching videos on Facebook via the play button icon on the app. Rather than scroll through my newsfeed I find these interesting videos. My favorite ones to watch are usually acts of kindness. 

I’ve always felt through the cosmetology industry I can make an impact in someone’s life. How you might ask? By enhancing their beauty: tailoring a certain color or haircut to their wants and  beautiful features. I love giving everyone who sits in my chair complements. To let them know this is a safe place, where they can feel relaxed and heard. It isn’t just about the hair. It is so much more than that. 

Recently I watched one where these guys who make comical prank videos (jalals) put together care package bags, containing over 600 dollars worth of items and give them out to total strangers (homeless individuals), expecting nothing in return. The basis of the video is to give back to their community and raise awareness. Of course by the end of the video I’m crying like a baby. (With joy.) These videos make me feel grateful for what I have and hopeful for humanity. 

Tonight I felt an urgency to partake in something greater than myself. I can do more, whether it’s a positive gesture or comment, we can all do more. Capitalizing on what I already do for my clients at the salon, I’ve decided I can give complements to strangers when I’m grocery shopping. Other RAK (random acts of kindness) I can perform such as: opening the door for someone, wave or smile at individuals in my community, assist with a task. 

I want to eventually give back to my community by helping out Mothers in need. Whether it might be donating our boys clothes that they’ve grown out of or toys that they no longer use. I would also love to partner with the star of hope or another organization to donate hair cuts to individuals in need. I want to teach our boys how to give back as well. With children I feel like it’s easy they have big hearts, before they are conditioned they usually have no prejudgement. Lead by example, our children watch our every move if we could all be more conscious in the way we treat one another our kiddos will follow. 

We can all do something to help one another. It could be a domino effect. We have the potential to make this world a better place, no act goes unseen. 

From my own experience, there has been times when I have felt low or emotional distressed. A individual has given me a complement like, I love your hair. Or your so cute, I love your outfit. Those small comments have helped boost my mood. 

I challenge you next time you’re at the grocery store to complement your cashier or help someone reach the yogurt at the top of the isle. Maybe even give something to someone you may know in need. It comes full circle. 

With love,

Em